Navigating singlehood to a relationship

7807312-group-of-friendly-business-colleaguesWe had a vibrant Home Group discussion this week, as we brought our Nehemiah study to a close.  As we read and discussed chapter 13, one question led to a hearty talk about the challenges that followers of Christ face in relationships.  One thing that is certain; there is incredible social pressure to be in a relationship.  Both men and women agree that the pressure from family members, parents and friends is intense. The difficulty lies in the push to find a ‘nice young man or woman’ to settle down with. I felt the urge to jump in and offer solutions but held my tongue.


The main themes of this hearty discussion saw us delve into the Bible. Nehemiah 11 reminds us the danger of being unequally yoked, which we established, can happen among believers, with one party living in carnality and the other striding forward in Godly transformation.   We unanimously agreed that we need to pursue God first, as gently put in Psalms 37:4, 5.  We also appreciated the need to be in frequent and constant prayer for a Godly partner.


One thing I do know , when we pursue God’s heart and will, remaining focused on His will, we take our relationship in Him to the next level.  Our relationship with God is strengthened as we choose to intentionally wander from the shallows into the depths.  God gave me a picture.  There I was, swimming in the depths of the sea.  I heard the Lord ask me to go deeper with Him.  As I swam deeper still, He asked me to look up and I saw the sun’s rays gently fracture the water directly above.  The water currents gave the dancing sunlight, streaming down into the depths of the sea.  All I remember is the immense joy washing over me.  I knew then, I had found the perfect place of faith.

Father God, I pray that you would protect each one of the single people reading this post.  I ask that you cover them in the blood of Jesus and that your Holy Spirit would move in their lives, directing their choices and dreams for You alone.  Thank you for leading us in the right direction; by giving us the right partner and blessing our union together.  We pray that we would keep our focus.  Thank you for loving us first and for blessing us.  We praise and bless your name, in Jesus’ mighty, matchless name. Amen




In need of women more than ever!

‘The potential for lasting change lies in the hands of millions of women currently living in poverty. That’s why we put women’s rights at the heart of everything we do.’ – Oxfam GB

Kenya‘s Daily Nation ran a cartoon that portrayed the country’s women in a negative light and insulted our Deputy President; neither of which is acceptable.

We are facing increased gender violence and continue to marry off very young girls to older men.  We allow female gender mutilation and claim it serves the purpose of taming the female libido, when clearly women are better adherents of social norms and values the world over. What is this constant purge on women that yields negative fruit?

8453125-portrait-of-three-attractive-young-women-in-studio-standing-in-lineOur society is facing unabated moral decay, with irresponsible social standards that harm a section of society, to allow men to keep up their leadership role, leaving society in distress, with shattered women and children without fathers.  Kenya, this cannot go on.  We cannot allow our nation to fall into the hands of whimsical leaders who giggle as they address the Parliamentary Speaker on such issues.  We need to let go of our past and move forward socially and refuse to linger on dreams past, claiming we are moving forward.

Our President and Deputy President brought their wives to the forefront with their wives at their sides, honouring the role of women and family.  It’s time to wake up and join Kenya in a new day – where family lives in our hears and minds. Reject all that shackle us to unjust expectations of the past, lest we reject the striding educational and forward-looking gains we have made.  The past is in the past.  We cannot aspire to those ideals and hold a place in the global era. Where are the Christians?  Is this what we stand for?

I know it and I see it!

lamu beachesYears and years of dreams.  Some I remember and some I forget.  Other dreams forgotten, hidden and buried in my mind.  No memory of what was.  The dreams are back and so is the sleep, deep and fulfilling.

As a child, God gave me so many dreams about where I would go and what I would do.  The forgotten, buried dreams remembered in fresh perspective.  The clarity, certainty and assurance flood my spirit with joy, as God Himself charts my path.  Our Pastor referred us to Acts 22 last Sunday and asked us to view all our past experiences are God’s tapestry of our lives. After the sermon, I honestly could not recall my assignment and my husband and I had a giggle about it – he had no recollection of his either.  We had sadly, lost our focus and fumbled our way down a winding and semi-lit path!

God is working in each of our lives and weaving an incredible future for us, in spite of ourselves! The book of Romans reinforces this fact beautifully:

Romans 8:28  “And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good,for those who are called according to his purpose.”

I continue to marvel at these words because I have made bad choices, taken wrong turns (sometimes the same one over and over and over again!) and yet He loves me still.   I have been oppressed, suppressed, depressed and unimpressed and He continues to love me, sing over me and redeem me.  This is quite a journey and I am thankful that the end is not yet in sight but I can see my purpose ahead of me.  Who knew I was living it all along?  Bumpy roads, wide avenues, narrow paths, down streams that turned into rivers and at the end of it all – tears of joy!  Watch out world, this lioness is arising!lioness up closeAre you ready for your adventure in Christ?  It is a tough path but worth every turn in the present, future and for eternity.

Unwrapped Delight!

What a week!  So glad to see it behind me and a fresh start today, after situations with the ‘sandpaper people’.  My dear husband kept reminding me that I am not what the sandpaper people portray me as!  That is God’s words through him right there – okay and common sense. So I shook off the old and went out each day, with confidence and gusto.  Poor sandpaper folks met with indifference and undeniable confidence.  All God’s strength and favour – nothing to do with me!  

love letter

Another chance to settle down, unwind and pray.  A chance to refresh, reconnect and enjoy the wisdom, grace and love of the Holy One.  Time to sit at His feet and gaze at His glory and revel in His warm comfort – the perfect place of joy.  The unravelling is on course.   I am in awe of His incredible revelation of what I need to deal with in my life.  I thank God for the support He gives, through prayer warriors and friends passionate for Christ!  There is so much to learn and so much to do.  The peace that this walk brings is priceless.  I can rest after the wrestling, in the assurance that the next bout, battle and war is already won!

unwrapped gift

There are free gifts too, if we are keen enough to listen, obey and receive.  I am so happy to have this moment.  Things shift and change but God stays the same, enduring, everlasting and unchanging.  There is no other life anchor!  As for me and my house…

Joshua 24:15

“And if it is evil in your eyes to serve the Lord, choose this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your fathers served in the region beyond the River, or the gods of the Amorites in whose land you dwell. But as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.”

Off to enjoy God’s love letters to me.  The Bible is our manual, our guide and reference for every situation.  Come on, dive in and see what He has in store for you!



Letters to my daughter


Children are such a blessing and mine is no different. She came into this world twelve years ago, a beautiful, bouncing baby, with wavy locks, large oriental eyes and a huge heart-warming smile.  She spent hours smiling each day, slept through the night and fed well.  Our little girl is uncharacteristically quiet, warm and full of joy.  Our little angel turned twelve and as I speak to her, we realize she blossoms into a young woman every day.


My letter to you, Angel, is one of fun memories in the sun, sand and waves; and cuddling in the cold months. Watching our favourite shows, movies, teaching you how to ride a bicycle and then to drive at GP Karting.  Tons of homework and studying for tests.  Reading and joining a library, borrowing books together and sharing our thoughts on  what we read.  I remember things that frightened you as a child.  How you have grown my Angel.

coast boating

As a little girl, every trip to the Coast an adventure, with you chasing the waves and running away, then right back again.  Lots of giggles, laughter, stitches and rolling around in the sand.  I only just cleared out the last of your sandpit toys.  Tiny little shovels, buckets and rakes.  I remember the many sandcastles complete with moats and the holiday on that distant magical island.  Starry nights and stargazing.  Camping out and eating toasted marshmallows.

Memories and flashbacks surround me still, Angel.  Your Dad and I love you more each day.  There are many more letters to come, oh little one! May God continue to bless and watch over you always.

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Still Unravelling

red stringMatthew 11:28 – Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.

Life in knots?  Me too.  So much is happening is happening, so quickly too.  Seems like there is no time to catch my breath, let alone rest.  Time for rest and relaxation.  Time to unwind and spend time with God in prayer, listening to Him and loving on Him.

Praise and worship sets the pace and rights my heart and spirit, opening me up to bless and honour God with everything I have.  Plugging in and taking a spiritual dive to new depths of His glory. How awesome, how amazing, magnificent and wonderful He is.  Love, kindness, mercy and grace abound.  Peace flows in and my heart and spirit  revive.

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Like new sheets, freshly aired, dried and still warm, my spirit responds to the source of all love, the one true Living God, Jehovah of old, the Great I Am.  Redeemer, Saviour and Friend.  Creator, Inspiration, always Immanent and Immutable.  Undulating, Unchanging, Never Ending.  I sit at His feet, showered in His Majesty and Glory.  Love, peace, mercy and joy flood my spirit.  Joy remains as I drop my baggage and release every last car.  The Unravelling is here and instead of shame, it brings solace and comfort, with a new identity for us!  Time to unravel your self image and let God show you who you really are.

Psalm 42

Why Are You Cast Down, O My Soul?

To the choirmaster. A Maskil of the Sons of Korah.

42 As a deer pants for flowing streams,

so pants my soul for you, O God.

2 My soul thirsts for God,

for the living God.

When shall I come and appear before God?

3 My tears have been my food

day and night,

while they say to me all the day long,

“Where is your God?”

4 These things I remember,

as I pour out my soul:

how I would go with the throng

and lead them in procession to the house of God

with glad shouts and songs of praise,

a multitude keeping festival.

5 Why are you cast down, O my soul,

and why are you in turmoil within me?

Hope in God; for I shall again praise him,

my salvation 6 and my God.

My soul is cast down within me;

therefore I remember you

from the land of Jordan and of Hermon,

from Mount Mizar.

7 Deep calls to deep

at the roar of your waterfalls;

all your breakers and your waves

have gone over me.

8 By day the Lord commands his steadfast love,

and at night his song is with me,

a prayer to the God of my life.

9 I say to God, my rock:

“Why have you forgotten me?

Why do I go mourning

because of the oppression of the enemy?”

10 As with a deadly wound in my bones,

my adversaries taunt me,

while they say to me all the day long,

“Where is your God?”

11 Why are you cast down, O my soul,

and why are you in turmoil within me?

Hope in God; for I shall again praise him,

my salvation and my God.

Happy Mother’s Day



Mothers teach us to love,

they make us smile

We make them laugh

Mothers keep us real!

I have the best mother ever!  No, I mean it!  She is amazing and I thank God for her every single day. 

Mum taught me how to look after myself and prepared me for a very big bad world through an enhanced reality.  She walked me through much but let me experience life’s lessons, so that they would be my own.  Today, I honour my Mum, for the incredibly warm, kind, loving and generous lady that she is.  She raised four distinctly different individuals.  Everyone who knows her will tell you how amazingly intelligent she is.  I love my Mum and I pray God continues to bless and favour her, as she marvels us daily as the ideal Proverbs 31 woman!

God created Mums like mine, so He could show us just how much He loves us. 

Happy Mother’s Day!  Belatedly, as I never write in Sundays….